Tag: change

It’s All Good

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So, today, I ran across a link on Facebook that was one of those gifts that FB rarely offers up.  Here is the link to “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself:”

http://www.lifebuzz.com/just-stop/

I loved the pictures and the advice, but I could not help thinking that I would find it so much more effective if it had been stated in positive terms instead of negative [think, The Secret], so I rewrote it.  I did it for me, but I thought you might like to have a copy, too. We forget this stuff and it’s so important. I have to daily battle perfectionism, beating myself up for real and imagined failures, trying to do too much for others, and so many more of these toxic behaviors.  I forget to be grateful, I find myself complaining, and I allow others to rain on my parade.  So, here is my new more positively stated version.  You’re welcome :).

30 Things to Start Doing Now…

  1. Spend time with the right people [people who lift others and don’t tear them down, people who value your worth].
  2. Face your problems head on- that’s the only way you can solve them.
  3. Be really honest with yourself.
  4. Give priority to your own needs.   Help others, but also help yourself.  You are special, too.
  5. Be yourself, even though the world will attempt to make you someone else.  You are exactly the right you for this moment in time- celebrate that “you.”
  6. Let the past go [so you can begin the next chapter in your life.]
  7. Welcome mistakes- they teach you things.
  8. Forgive yourself for every mistake you already made and let it go.
  9. Happiness is a choice, it’s free- you can’t buy it and you won’t find it in all those things you’re buying.
  10. You make your own happiness – other people can’t give it to you and you won’t be happy anywhere or in any relationship until you’re happy inside your own skin.
  11. Be productive- too much time to think can be a bad thing and time wasted is opportunities missed.
  12. Believe you are ready- right now!  Step outside of your comfort zone and go for it!
  13. Enter relationships for the right reasons- because you have taken your time, you don’t need anything from the other person, and together you make each other better versions of yourselves.
  14. Have faith in new relationships- highlight the word “new.”  When you let someone go, let go of all the baggage they left with you.  They had a purpose in your life.  New relationships will have a different purpose. 
  15. Compete only against yourself- meet your own goals and beat your old records.  We don’t judge squirrels on their swimming and fish on their climbing.  We all have different gifts and needs.
  16. Delight in others’ good fortune.  Jealousy is poisonous.
  17. Stay positive- nobody likes to listen to constant complaining.  Feeling sorry for yourself brings you down.  Staying positive brings you up!
  18. Forgive everyone for everything.  Don’t hold onto it for even a minute–grudges hurt only you [trust me on this one].
  19. Maintain your standards of behavior even when others lower theirs.
  20. Own your behavior and decisions- you don’t owe explanations to others [some won’t believe you and others don’t care].
  21. Get off the daily grind sometimes and step back to breathe and take a look.  Sometimes it’s good to take a look at the forest instead of individual trees as they zip past.
  22. Stop and experience beauty with one or more of your senses at least once a day [then let yourself feel gratitude for the moment].
  23. Perfectionism kills productivity and creativity.  Just do it!
  24. Avoid the path of least resistance- greatness is found on other paths.
  25. Be authentic.  If everything is falling apart, you can fall apart and then put it back together again. Strong is sometimes letting others see you at your lowest.
  26. Take personal responsibility for what happens to you.  Your personal choices combined with your attitude determine your reality.  The blame game is so tiring and it discredits you.
  27. Be realistic about what you can accomplish.  When you are spread too thin, you become ineffective and/or useless to yourself and others.
  28. Worry less or not at all – it’s a big joy stealer and we need all the joy we can get.  Worry won’t change things, but your choices from today on can….
  29. Focus only on what you want to happen- that’s the SECRET.  When you dwell on negative, you get more negative.
  30. Every moment of every day you have something for which to be grateful.  Wrap yourself in gratitude, roll around in it like a happy puppy, savor it like chocolate… and your world will transform. 🙂

I took this from the article too [I know, it’s so Oprah, but it is powerful nonetheless]: 

Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

 

Christmas Eve Gratitude

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So, it’s been a while since I paid any attention to this blog.  Mostly because my life goes at such a dizzying speed that I cannot keep up enough to document any of it.  I really need to change the name of my blog, since turns out I wasn’t/am not quarter of the way to Menopause- at least not a quarter of a year from there.  So much has happened since I began hyper-focusing on Menopause and how it might be wrecking havoc in my life.  Changing my attitude and focus, well, that sort of solved the premature Menopause crisis.  How did this happen?  Well, I stopped looking in and started looking out.  Shortly after I named my belly, I carefully began to watch as a friend began to shrink and come out of her shell so to speak.  She was doing this crazy diet plan that I wanted no part of.  I didn’t do liquid plans [turns out it wasn’t a completely liquid plan- yay]; I didn’t do such prescribed plans, and I would never do I plan where I had to purchase food!

Fast forward to Sept. when betty was so big I could not deny her existence and she was making my life miserable- I saw her in store window reflections that startled me, I saw her when I looked down in the shower [or out], I tried to pull my clothing over her or make buttons stay closed… well, you get the idea.  That bitch had to go.  So, I began researching this product and I found that it had chemistry behind it, that it was medically safe [the fact that it was promoted by some physicians did not influence me since I continually question why we give them such trust and responsibility with our health], and most importantly… that it worked.  It worked fast and furiously and I wouldn’t have to think about the zone or the south beach or a point or a calorie or a carb.  I would not have to have the perfect ratio of protein, fat, carb, and fiber because someone else was going to do that for me.  I could take food off the radar and live my *&^%ing life.

Cue to Sept 28 when my shipment arrived.  I’ll post the video later.  I was excited to begin and ready to commit.  Oct. 2nd was my start date, and today.. just a wee 83 days later [just shy of 12 weeks], I’ve gone from 196 to 167 this morning and turned all those numbers on their heads– including the big one I was aiming for- HbA1c.  In fact, it’s down in the normal range again from pre-diabetic and I did that in 2 months!

So, on Christmas Eve, 2012, I am grateful for so many things, the primary being my family and their health and wellness and the love of an incredible man who is my best friend, but I am also grateful that my eyes were opened, that I was given this opportunity to change my health and improve the quality of my life.  I am grateful that I have new self confidence that I can do this- I can take control of my weight and my health.  My only regret is that I didn’t start this 20 years ago.  I am living the secret, and now I truly believe that if I can see it- I can achieve it [which I have long subscribed to but did not believe where my weight was concerned].  And so, this morning, as I contemplate a one day reprieve commencing sometime tomorrow and lasting perhaps 4-8 hours, I am pausing at the precipice, and because of those numbers this morning, I will carefully consider each choice I have to make.  This all fills me with joy.  Merry Christmas!